Crucial Steps to Take When You Get Ghosted

Your love life should not be spooky

Ghosting stings. It can make you feel rejected and abandoned at the same time, and it offers you no closure or feedback whatsoever. It’s an incredibly frustrating experience, and if it’s happened to you, I feel for you, I really do.

In fact, research shows that social rejection and physical pain activate the same regions of the brain. So the emotional pain you feel in response to ghosting is very much real.

I’ve dated and been ghosted plenty, and while I brushed off most of them, a few really stung, and one in particular tore me apart.

I was ghosted before the term even existed by my first (long distance) love.

I was also ghosted by an ex I was still in love with after he told me he wanted to get back together.

I was more recently ghosted by a guy I had been on a few dates with and quite liked. Things were humming along nicely, and starting to really heat up, and then poof! He was gone, and I was left asking, “wtf?” Luckily, I was a seasoned ghostee by this point, and had developed a ghosting protocol.

Don’t Do This

In the past, I texted my ghosts, demanding answers. Maybe he is hurt. Maybe his phone is broken and he doesn’t know my number by heart…