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Six Ways to Let Go of Your Need for Control — Free Yourself for More Peace and Mental Energy
Your energy is finite — use it where it can make a difference.
A desire to control the actions of other people often stems from feeling out of control. We typically learn controlling behaviors if we saw them modeled to us in childhood.
The irony is, trying to control other people and every little thing only makes you feel worse, because it’s a never ending battle we can’t win. When we learn to let go of control, we free up precious energy to focus on the things we can control — like our words, our actions, and our habits.
We can state boundaries, preferences, and express our needs and desires, but we cannot ever truly control other people, and we lose control of ourselves when we try.
When we let go of the need to control every little thing, we make room for bigger strides in our own happiness and progress, and give ourselves more peace of mind.
Life is uncertain and at times scary, and having a sense of control gives us the false promise of certainty, something sought-after in our sometimes chaotic and ever-changing realities.
