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Three Truths about Love I Learned the Hard Way
I’m not a love expert, but I love to study them.
At the time of writing this, I am single, and to be honest, I’m still licking my wounds from my last attempt at romance. I have been dating for more than a decade. I’ve had my heart broken, and I’ve broken hearts. I’ve been to couples therapy. I’ve had three long term relationships, some short term relationships, and many mediocre and downright awful dates in between. I’ve lived with two partners, and at times discussed marriage and children. I’ve thought I met “the one” more than once, and I’ve questioned the idea of “the one” altogether. And I’ve been researching the psychology of attachment theory and romantic love the past several years. I’ve been in therapy on and off since 2013.
I’ve learned a thing or two along the way, but theory and practice are very different–especially when it comes to changing your romantic attachment style, which is notoriously difficult.
They say the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. When it comes to love, this has been my experience- it is nothing like the fairy tales or JCPenny’s ads I grew up with, but I’d rather know the truth than spend my life failing to measure up to a marketing ploy.
The following are three truths about love I learned about love the hard way:
