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Two Questions to Ask Yourself When Faced With Haters, Critics, and Gossip
“People are probably not happy with their lives if they are busy discussing yours.”
No one likes to be at the center of nasty gossip, relentless criticism, or mean spiritedness. It goes against our nature.
When we were cave men and women, being socially rejected could mean life or death, as it could affect our access to food, water, and resources. If the guy with the warmest bear skin blankets hates us, we’re probably going to be cold at night. If the best fisherman in town thinks we’re a schmuck, we have improve our foraging skills.
So, subconsciously, social rejection can feel life threatening if we let it.
And while most of us reading this are lucky enough to walk into any supermarket or buy blankets online, social rejection still stings, and most of us, no matter how kind and delightful we may be, will find the nastiness of others directed at us from time to time.
If you think back to anyone who ever hated you, spread rumors about you, or was overly critical of you, I want you to ask yourself two questions. Firstly:
Would you want their life?
The answer is most likely no. People say don’t take advice from people if you wouldn’t want their life, and…
